When the Anita Hill/Clarence Thomas story broke in the fall of 1991, I was a freshman in college. During a class discussion, I recall a professor saying that he believed that Clarence Thomas had done exactly what Anita Hill claimed. In my young 18 year-oldness, I don’t think I believed Anita Hill at the time. I mean, why would a married man need to make sexual advances to a single woman? He had a woman sleeping beside him every night… and she was white. What more could he want? And why would he want Anita Hill? I mean… she wasn’t that cute… She didn’t even have a good relaxer.
But today, in my 37 year-oldness, I believe Anita Hill without hesitation. I now know that it is not about who you have laying beside you at night… it’s not about looks, (and it sho ain’t about a relaxer). Furthermore, it’s not about how much a man has at home. It’s about what he feels he’s missing outside of the home. Think about it for a minute.
But what I don’t understand is why Virginia Thomas still does not believe Anita Hill. I guess the answer is because she is in her ‘married woman bubble’.
What is the married woman bubble? It is the bubble that women married for a a certain number of years seem to become so encapsulated in, that they loose touch with reality. Well, maybe they don’t loose touch with reality, but their reality changes so much that that they become clueless about how the ‘other half’ lives. While swimming in their bubble, they become unaware of things that they saw so clearly prior to marriage, including what their husbands are really capable of. Once immersed in the bubble, single woman are no longer their sister, they are the competition… just someone else trying to take their husbands.
Now, being the pure and chaste girl that I am, the information I’m about the divulge, I do not know from experience. Oh no… never that. I have gathered these facts from years of research with include interviews, surveys and polls with single women of all ages, races and circumstances. So married women, this one is for you!
Bubble Buster #1. Single women don’t want your husbands… your husbands want them! Bill Maher said, “Women want new shoes. Men want new sex.” Believe that! I know you want to believe that you provide all your husbands needs, in and out of the bedroom. And you do! But your sex isn’t new sex. Single women have new sex. You don’t. Therefore when your husband wants new sex, in addition to your sex, he goes to a single woman. Which takes me to Bubble Buster # 2.
Bubble Buster #2. Married men PURSUE single women. Not only that, they probably pursue them with more vigor and determination than they pursued you. Wait, not my husband! Yes, your huuuuzband.
I came across a blog in which a blogger said that courting is a lost art form. She said that men date, but they don’t ‘court you’. That’s a lie. Men do court! Single men don’t. But married men do! Not only is courting alive and well, married men court women, (who are not their wives) with dogged determination. There is no restaurant too exclusive, no gift too costly, and no light bill too high for a married man who has his sights set on a single woman. Think about it… A married man can not give a single woman what she really wants… commitment and time. Therefore, in order to get the new sex (see Bubble Buster #1) he must first pursue her, which oftentimes includes heavy courting. And that means a lot of eating, shopping and spending a whole lot more money than you would be comfortable hearing about. I know you are fuming… but don’t be mad at me… I’m just telling you what the research shows!
Bubble Buster #3. Single women really don’t want your husband. They want a husband of their own. While there are some women he seek married men, the vast majority of women who engage in relationships with married men never approach the man. But your husband just will not accept ‘no’ for an answer. Really. He basically wears them down, buys enough dinners, pays enough bills, and is sappy sweet enough that your husband becomes a close second to a husband of their own.
But all you can see through your image-distorting bubble is that ‘hussy that wants your husband’. You seem to be oblivious to the fact that your husband was the catalyst for it all, when he approached her in the first place, knowing damn-well that his ass is married.
So, what’s the purpose of this blog? Well, I guess I just wanna share the results of years of research from single women who have dated married men. Plus, I think it is my duty (and not to mention pleasure) to enlighten women all across the world!
So there you have it. Hopefully, married women, like Virginia Thomas, can see outside of their bubble, just long enough to look cock-eyed at their husbands, instead of demonizing the single woman.
That’s it… my work here is done!