This is the question that was asked on a WACH Fox news segment a few days ago. I watched with intrigue as I waited for a suitable answer, which never really came. Instead of the truth, what I got was a bunch of selfish excuses why people, in this case, women, are not willing to settle down. One lady said, “It’s… so much more than, ‘I’m in love with you, let’s get married.” And another explained she didn’t go through with an engagement because, “…this (marriage) could forfeit my future…”
Are you serious? Is this what young people think of marriage? That’s when it hit me like a ton of bricks… people are starting to buy into the notion of ‘it’s ok to be single’. But the fact of the matter is, it’s NOT ok to be single.
While I do believe that people should work on themselves while they wait/seek their mate, this perpetual lifestyle and mindset of singleness is dangerous, and dangerous in many ways. For one, it further breaks down the institution of marriage and family. Woman was made for Man. Bottom line. Period. Point blank. God didn’t take Adam’s rib and created Eve so she could be the CEO of a company. He put her here to be Adam’s helper. That’s it. So, should she head up a company? Sure, she certainly should. But not forsaking the family. To deny the man/woman partnership with this ‘it’s ok to be single’ mentality is to deny God’s plan.
Secondly, it promotes single parenthood. Follow me closely, now. While you are out there living your single life, you are still having sex… which leads to pregnancy. And since you’ve grown so comfortable in your singleness and are less willing to compromise, you are less likely to get married. In fact, with that temperament, you are actually unsuitable for marriage because compromise is a cornerstone of marriage. So, your pregnancy leads to yet another instance of single parenthood. A recent study showed that more than half of women under 30 give birth outside of marriage. You should find that very disturbing. And say what you want, this trend of children being raised in single parent households contributes significantly to our societal decline.
Thirdly, this ‘it’s ok to be single’ mantra is dangerous because those touting it are just lying to themselves, especially the older people. They are not happy being single. They are just trying to be happy in spite of being single. Many have just given up hope of finding someone and are psyching themselves out to soften the blow of loneliness; passing their hopelessness off as empowerment. Remember when Monique said, she was happy being fat and taunted skinny women? She felt that way when she didn’t think she could lose weight. But her story changed the moment she lost weight. Same thing with this singleness mentality. It’s ok to be single… until you find a man/woman. Then, all of a sudden, you join the masses of blissful couples who just can’t get enough of each other. And that’s ok… just be real about it.
God intended for us to be with someone. Many of us may not have found that person yet. And that’s cool. Enjoy your life while you wait. But be careful what you proclaim. Because it really is not ok to be single. It has major societal implications.