In His Words: Single Men Over 40 Lie About Being Happy
Posted July 7, 2011 by That Teowonna!David: I awoke one morning and realized that I was a single man over the age of 40. You can lie all you want to but if you are in my shoes, you are not a happy camper. We take quite a few things for granted in our quest to be the best man that we can be. However we often forget one thing, being the best man to yourself has limited value; you have to be a best man for your woman.
I guess you could say that my conscious happened to me that morning and regardless of all the accomplishments and accolades, the one thing that I have failed miserably at is securing a mate to not only enjoy some of life’s treasures, but to share what is left of our existence.
I miss the laughter and the warm caresses that she gave to me for no reason at all. We have failed to realize that when a woman decides to share her life with us that she is giving us the more valuable gift she will ever possess. Some of us have never even considered telling her thanks for sharing “her”; we’re too selfish, feeling entitled.
Now don’t get me wrong, because the one thing I can admit at this stage of my life is that it’s no longer important that I know what I want in a women. With age comes wisdom and I am more secure with knowing what I do not want…
The odd thing about it all is that the little things that drive people apart are overshadowed when you really think of the little things that should have kept them together.
The man I see in the mirror is not afraid to admit that he is lonely and it takes a real man to admit that…..he is also pissed at the man looking in because one of us should have fixed this shit by now…
David K. Drew is an actor, producer and author living in Columbia, SC. He is an executive producer of the soap drama, Love Always, Charleston which can be seen weekly on the COLOURS network on Dish. He is also the author of Augusta Nights, his second book.
David’s philosophy is “Dreams make living worth the hustle.”
You can email David at Drewexec@yahoo or friend him on Facebook.
Wow….That is very interesting to hear! I always thought that men over 40 were happy being single! You are a rare breed to say the least….
ok ok blah blah its a million awesome women out here, not good but awesome women looking for a man, not a good man “A Man” and this dummy got this sad story, Sounds like a player move to me. Man up and choose one.
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I truly believe the 1st thing in changing what you don’t like is being honest with yourself about what’s wrong. The next step is being honest with the rest of your world and allowing new experiences to usher you into the desired outcome. Congratulations, you seen to on track to getting exactly what it is you desire.
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dont group all of in the same category as you just because your unhappy doesnt mean the rest of us are
Ryan, thank you for your comment. Just wondering, how old are you and how long have you been single?
I truly believe in what u say not only men but for women too need to value what they have. I feel love is not like it used to be. But keep u head up there’s someone for everyone and your not getting older you’re getting wiser and better. Good luck to you.