We are in the two-thousands now. This is evident with all these new societal trends that I’m starting to notice. When the calendar flipped from the 1900’s to the new millennium, it’s like the whole world lost its mind. Many things that were once exceptions to the rule are now mainstream and everyday occurrences… like this new trend of unmarried men.
There is a growing number of men, for whatever reason, who are opting not to get married in their twenties and thirties, as men of yesteryear did. Some are even remaining unmarried well into their forties and fifties.
Men have their choice of women these days, so I can see how it would be extremely enticing to want to remain single and unattached. But here is a word of caution to men… if you wait too long before you try to settle down, even though you may be fine and have it going on, you can actually be considered unmarriageable.
Definition: Unmarriageable – Nobody don’t want yo ass no mo.
Ok. That’s a little strong. If you are 48 and have never been married, yes, someone will want you. But the women that you want, probably will not want you. Take it from a sistah, there is something unattractive, scary even, about a man over 45 who has never been married. I mean really.
When you meet a woman and you start to share pasts and life stories, the inevitable question of why you have never been married will come up. And you answer, ‘because I haven’t found the right woman’. She may skin and grin in your face, but what she is thinking is, “What’s wrong with you?”
Think about it, men. All these beautiful, smart, ambitious, women who can cook, clean and make you glad that you are a man and you couldn’t find a single one that you get along with well enough to marry? Really dude? Trust me… that brings up more questions about you than it does women.
I know a number to fine brothas who are doing big things in the world. Making money, volunteering, mentoring, all the things that good men should do. But they are also playing the field. And believe it or not, I really don’t have a problem with that. As long as you are not lying or leading anyone on, enjoy your life. Date… be single. I’m down with that.
But for your own sake, you better be trying to narrow the number down before you hit 45. Because that is the magic number in which your stock drops significantly. If you haven’t been married as least once by 45, as a woman, I feel like I’m taking a big chance on you. I’m just being honest.
It is completely understandable for a woman to have never been married at the age of 45… hell, there ain’t but so many men to marry. But a man? There is NO reason for a man to have not been married. Seriously. Unless…
So, word to the wise. Don’t let 45 catch you unmarried. And if you are already 45, you need to try and tie the knot within the next 12 months. Otherwise, you might find that the old grimy man in the club is actually you. Or even worse, you wake up one day and look behind you to find that that gang of women that was once chasing you, has given up and moved on. You were running so hard, that you didn’t notice that no one was behind you anymore. Now, that’s a bad feeling.